Yes words and what a big subject, I know some people already bypassed this but here I go! We all have had words spoken to us that affect us as well we have spoken words to others that affect them. In the 21st Century words can be spoken, implied in conversations, texted (be thoughtful of blind copies sent), social media publicized, in body language, in emails (be thoughtful of blind copies sent) and in photos manipulated to be what the sender wants it to appear to be.
On Sunday, December 22, 2013 I received words that have taken me this long to process and talk about. Good thing was about two weeks prior to December 22nd, I received a phone call from my Ex Mother In Law who just wanted to call me and let me know how much she still Loves me, Respects me, Misses me and what a great person I am. She brought tears to my eyes as she told me that I am one of the most giving, serving, loving person she has known in her 80 plus years of life. WOW these were powerful words that encourage and lifted me up to the clouds. How ironic that she felt the need to call me before her death two short weeks later and how much it meant to me as I reflect on this phone call.
See I am truly a people pleaser and have been working hard over the past two years to become more of a God and Husband pleaser which has caused a lot of other folks in my life to speak negative things about or question me. That good ole grapevine works both ways so I need to be careful as I can only be responsible for myself. I need to remember that the good ole grapevine ALWAYS gets embellished by everyone who repeats what they think they heard, so I will be working on being MORE careful in 2014. As the Hubs says: No good deed goes unpunished OR The first person to speak looses the disagreement so State the Facts without Emotion.
My ex Mother In Law through her death made me aware that this New Year I will work harder to Not Give up, work with the purpose of being a Positive Person like her, you know look for the good because the bad is already being talked about. I have decided to get better at smiling, biting my tongue in lieu of speaking and seriously work at stating kind encouraging words to ALL those around me.
I will not be phony and I will continue to stand my ground so respect me or do not respect me, your call as I will continue working on being kind but with Healthy Respectful Boundaries. Remember, like you, I am a work in progress and it takes 60 days to form a new habit so give me the Same Grace you would want me to give you. 🙂
Until next time, keep it REAL … REAL FUN and know you are an AWESOME person created with a unique talent only you can accomplish! Brenda 🙂